Inner Child Work

As we are evolving as a human race and elevating our consciousness on the planet, inner work is becoming increasingly important.

With the growth of self-development and the normalization of therapy, we are seeing a significant rise in certain healing modalities.

One of which is inner child work.

Inner child work addresses the parts of our personality that are shaped by childhood experiences and impact our behaviour, thoughts, and emotions as adults.

This healing modality has the power to bring profound transformation to one’s life as it really gets to the root cause.

Despite its potential for transformation, it is often overlooked and undervalued.

This blog will explore the concept of the inner child, its’ impact on us, and the importance of engaging in inner child work for growth and healing.

What is the Inner Child?

As we progress through life, we experience experiences. These experiences start to define us, especially as children as we go through the developmental stages and are sponges, learning and absorbing all the incredible lessons and beauty around us. They shape our beliefs, attitudes and habits.

Each of these experiences becomes stored in our subconscious minds.

Often good experiences have less emphasis but they still define and shape us in profound ways. These may be experiences of joy, love or good times and provide us with a sense of happiness, fulfilment, and well-being

It is usually the “bad or traumatic” experiences that hinder our progress, throw us out of alignment and trigger our survival instincts. These experiences can create a sense of fear and insecurity.

Both these “good and bad” experiences are part of an energetic inner child blueprint which is essentially a part of a person’s psyche that encapsulates those experiences and more importantly, our subjective interpretation of them, including the feelings and memories.

How the good and the bad experiences affect us

Our experiences, both good and bad, have a profound impact on our lives.

Good experiences create a sense of health, flow, and expansion, allowing us to feel confident and capable. When we are in this space, there is less stress and anxiety as things seem to just come easily, having already been mastered.

On the other hand, “bad experiences” can hinder our growth and development. These experiences can create energetic trauma, holding us stagnant in that time, leaving a lasting impact on our mental and emotional well-being, until we start healing it.

It is at this point that we usually seek help.

The impact of childhood on adulthood

The inner child blueprint has a very integral part in shaping our personality as a child and then defining who we are as an adult.

The inner child is an accumulation of experiences, emotions and development processes that happened to us during our childhood years and beyond.

In my work, I do inner child work through the timeline before the present moment, even if this means you are an adult.

All of this is buried in the subconscious, running our lives, our thoughts, emotions and behaviours without us realising it.

Once we do inner child work, we can re-find awareness behind the motivation and patterns allowing us to move toward emotional mastery.

How trauma impacts our lives

Trauma is a term that is often used to describe a deeply distressing or disruptive experience.

Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer-term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships, and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea.

I work with what I call Energetic trauma. It refers to a distressing event that creates an imbalance in an individual’s energy field, leading to a “tear” in the aura or energy which can cause energy leaks.

These imbalances can result in psychological responses such as disconnect, repression, denial, and suppression, which are often survival mechanisms for the individual. Healing the energy layer and repairing the leaks are integral in resolving this type of trauma.

This is why energy work is so important in the work I do, as it is necessary to address and heal the underlying energetic tears that may be impacting an individual’s well-being.

Energetic Trauma

As children, we bring soul and karmic contracts into a very physical dimension. These are here to help us grow and develop.

To do this, we need to learn how to navigate this realm and develop self-mastery.

Unfortunately, as kids, we do not have the skills to process and deal with the world around us, especially traumatic experiences, leading us to develop unhealthy coping mechanisms to survive. These experiences become buried deep within our subconscious, often to the point where we may not even remember them, and they can also become trapped within our bodies.

This build-up of unresolved traumatic experiences can affect our health and well-being as adults. They may resurface as physical disease, emotional disturbances, behavioural issues, or spiritual disconnection.

It is my belief that every imbalance in our emotions, behaviours, or health can be traced back to an energetic trauma sometime in childhood, or before in a previous time.

Emotional Wounding

As we are going through our life, we may experience emotions, behaviours or just react to the world around us in a way that may seem out of proportion to what is going on. There may be no logical connection. It can be anxiety, depression, anger, or frustration.

For example, your partner with whom you have been going out for 5 months now and things are going very well. One morning, he tells you a last minute work trip has come up. This is over the weekend when you had a wedding and he was supposed to join you. Intellectually, one could understand. But instead, it turns into a huge internal emotional meltdown, where you feel he may be abandoning you. You feel this is the start of the end. And that this always happens. You will never find anyone ever. You land up pushing him away.

This reaction is from childhood wounding.

If there was an understanding you would start connecting this last-minute trip with the trigger of your father saying he had to pick something up from the store and not returning.

The inner child represents that little child who is still experiencing huge trauma and wounds of being abandoned and not being good enough. She feels there is something wrong. There is a tremendous amount of anxiety and an inability to trust. This lands up becoming a part of of one’s relationship patterns and inevitably pushes the partner away as the inner child expects him to leave too.

Through healing this trigger, you can start feeling more at peace, a deeper sense of trust and intimacy with your partner you have never felt before.

Inner Child Archetypes

Childhood experiences can have a profound impact on a person’s life, shaping their beliefs, emotions, and behaviours as an adult. Among these experiences, unresolved traumas and wounds can lead to the development of different archetypal inner children. These archetypes are neither good nor bad, and they carry both light and shadow aspects. By exploring these archetypes, individuals can gain insight into their own inner selves, recognize patterns, and work towards healing.

Orphan Child

The orphan child archetype represents feelings of abandonment, rejection, and scapegoatism. The orphan child may have experienced physical separation from a caregiver or parent. This can be in a passing of a parent, a divorce, poverty or an intentional rejection.

The child may feel disconnected from their family and do not belong to the family unit.

As a result, this child may struggle with trust and have a deep fear of being left out or rejected in relationships. With healing, the orphan child can transform into a self-reliant and independent individual who finds comfort within themselves.

Wounded Child

This archetype stems from abuse or neglect experienced in childhood, resulting in unmet physical or emotional needs. There may have been a lack of basic physical needs, such as food, clothing or shelter. Or it could have been emotional such as emotional comfort and validation.

In some cases, you can almost see the consequences in physical scars.

The wounds left by these experiences can manifest as depression, anxiety, and difficulty functioning as an adult.

However, with healing, the wounded child can develop deep compassion, forgiveness, and a love for life.

Magical Child

The magical child is as the name suggests, the child who possesses magic. This child appreciates the beauty around them, believe in their potential and have bravery during difficult times.

This can also lead to a sense of escapism from the world around them and a strong need to live within an imaginary bubble.

Nature Child

The nature child is like the hippie concept. It is that child who adores nature and animals. They come alive when connecting deeper with the earth and their gifts emerge.

This can also lead to a sense of cruelty if not mastered.

Check out our inner child quiz if you would like to find your inner child archetype.

Why is inner child work so important?

Inner child work is a transformative journey that can lead to greater self-awareness, emotional stability, and a more fulfilling life.

It is a way of exploring and gaining a deeper understanding of our motivations, emotions, and patterns of behaviour.

It is an important step towards growth and self-discovery, and a key factor in leading a life guided by consciousness. So, if you are looking to heal and grow, taking the time to explore your inner child is a critical step towards creating a more positive and enriching life.

A typical inner child session

A traditional inner child session would include the following:

Therapy

The session would begin with a discussion about the client, where they are at in their life and their challenges. This would then go into childhood, exploring memories or emotions.

Hypnotherapy

The therapist will guide a client into relaxation and then get them to imagine themselves as a kid, sometimes going back to what happened or just connecting with that time, so they can work through the trauma.

Journaling

Journaling is a powerful therapeutic tool to become more in tune with one’s emotions, needs and subconscious mind.

Role Playing

By going through acting between adult and child, one can get to their innermost healing needed.

Empathy and Validation

By going through the experiences and offering the inner child the empathy and validation they didn’t get, can be transformational.

Reflection and Integration

There is a chance to thins to process and be integrated

My Inner Child Sessions

My energy healing sessions work a bit differently and you can see more of my program here.

I create a safe, nurturing and non-judgmental environment for the inner child to emerge. Using trance, I connect with your inner child and offer love, healing, and safety. I start the process and go back to the start of the event.

I assess what the inner child needs and work on bringing balance to the energy field.

My sessions involve a combination of energy healing, archetypal exploration, creative expression, storytelling, guided visualization and integration.

The goal is to provide a healing experience without reliving the traumatic experiences, allowing for a quicker path to healing.

Emotional Mastery

In conclusion. the journey to emotional mastery begins with the inner child work in an incredible healing tool, designed to shift things right at the root so you can transform into who you authentically are.

If you are looking to go deeper, welcome to check out my inner child and beyond programs.